Bring this underrated sex act back into the bedroom, sexperts say
Give your partner a hand.
As couples across America are said to be stuck battling “sexless January,” experts are saying it’s time to bring back a simple sex act some may not have tried since their teen years.
“The hand job definitely doesn’t happen enough in adult bedrooms,” Vanessa Marin, a licensed sex therapist, told Women’s Health.
“It’s a huge shame because a hand job is a great way to bring pleasure to your partner,” the nookie ninja nudged.
Consensus among the coitus cognoscenti appears to be that sexy stroking doesn’t just have to be used to get things going — it can even be the main event.
“We tend to think of hand jobs as something that comes before ‘sex,’ but remember, sex is what you want it to be and changes with each and every sexual experience,” Holly Richmond, certified sex therapist and somatic psychotherapist, told the outlet.
“Hand jobs can be a great way to tease as a prelude to oral or intercourse, or a great way to get off at the end,” she said.
To help horny hotties spice up their sex lives, the making-it mavens shared nearly thirty handy tips for handy j’s with Women’s Health.
For example — watching your partner masturbate and then matching their moves was encouraged, for those eager to grasp how to give your partner the best handjob.
Have your partner masturbate in front of you and take note of how they touch themselves. It will show you the speed and motion they enjoy and also likely get you going as well, Richmond said.
“For many, watching their partner masturbate is a huge turn-on,” she added.
And don’t be afraid to take things in hand, either.
“You can be a lot firmer than you think,” Marin urged.
To gauge how hard you should grip, the romance resource person recommends gripping the shaft and gradually increasing pressure asking your partner to tell if it gets to be too much.
Don’t be shy, either, the private parts pros urged in the fairly lengthy article — looking into your lover’s eyes is an intimate act that only adds to the close connection whether it be directly or through a mirror’s reflection, they said.
Make eye contact while you stroke your partner near a mirror and then allow them to watch themselves enjoy it and you pleasure themselves.
“Give your partner a great hand job while they’re looking in the mirror and can watch themself and you,” Richmond suggested.
“Many people are very turned on by watching themselves but are often too shy to ask, so suggest a little voyeuristic show.”